Every now and then, there is one conversation that rears it’s ugly head amongst the book community on twitter. YA aka books for Young Adults.

I honestly don’t know how it came up this time. I think it may have been when a certain Author tweeted to an adult “don’t read my books, they aren’t for you they are for kids”. It could have been something before this but I’m not sure, all I know is that there was quite the storm on twitter.

This here is my two cents on the matter. This is the last time I will get involved in this conversation because not only am I sick of people fighting over it, but I feel like as an adult, it isn’t my place to really be going on about this.

So here it is.

Young Adults

  • You are wanted and needed in the book community. Seriously. The world is changing and young people have new ideas about how things should be done. Only in the last few years has diversity been challenged because we had young people specifically, using their voice and saying “this isn’t right”.
  • Tell us adults when we overstep. Let us know if we have made you uncomfortable or if you don’t like something that we have said/done.
  • Your feelings are 100% valid. You are living, breathing human beings and deserve respect and the ability to use your voice without having to worry about backlash.
  • Despite whatever people may say, YA is for you.
  • With that in mind, remember that you can also read whatever the fuck you want.


  • Continue reading YA.
  • If an Author is telling you not to read their books because they didn’t write them for you, think about whether this Author is really worth your time anyway.
  • People are going to judge you for reading YA. They shouldn’t, but they will because people as a whole are judgemental creatures. Should you just lie down and accept this? I don’t know, it’s up to you and whether you want to keep fighting a fight that probably won’t be won by anyone.
  • Remember that YA is for young adults. Love these books and fangirl with others, but remember not to take over a space that is for young adults. We had our turn when we were their age, now let’s hand the gauntlet over to them.
  • Promote young adults and their blogs, tweets, Instagram…whatever other social media things I am missing out on. Especially as a teenager, it can feel impossible for your voice to be heard. Let’s get those voices out there, teens do SO MUCH for the book community and we should be encouraging anyone who wants to fangirl over books.


Please remember that at the end of the day, we are all here because we love books. Respect one another and don’t talk over each other. If you have differing opinions that’s ok. Shake hands and move along. If someone is making twitter, your blog…whatever, a toxic environment, get rid of them. You don’t need the negativity and you should be in a space that feels safe and comfortable.

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Anyway, that’s it. If you disagree/agree with anything I have said above please let me know, but please keep it respectful. I’m not here to fight with anyone, just giving my opinion.

Steff xx


Romance Fails in Fiction Tag

Hello friends!

I hope you are all having a super awesome week! I was tagged by the lovely Sophie @ Blame Chocolate for this fun tag. To be honest, I am not exactly sure what constitutes a “fail”, so I have gone with some super cringey relationships that made me want to vomit.


  • Please PINGBACK to Kate @ Melting Pots and Other Calamities.
  • You can choose ten romance fails from ANY media you like: books, movies, anime, manga, T.V shows, or Webtoons. You can even mix them up if you want.
  • You can choose funny fails or serious ones; for the serious ones, phrase it humorously. Remember, this is a fun tag! It’s not meant to be serious.
  • Mention who’s who in the fails. (I.E, who fails and who is the recipient of the failure). If there isn’t  recipient, per se, just state the couple (or non-couple).
  • Optional: Rank the failures from least extreme to most extreme.
  • 5 failures at LEAST.
  • Tag as many people as you want, but at least one person.


Joey & Rachel – Friends

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Why did anyone think this was a good idea?! This whole thing was YUCK and it is one part of Friends that I like to pretend never happened. Ugggghhhhh.

Clary & Sebastian – The Mortal Instruments

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I won’t give too much away with this one. But anyone who read the books will completely understand why this one is cringey, and why we were all sooooo glad it was a massive fail!

Edward & Bella – Twilight

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I guess their relationship didn’t fail, but it’s just super cringe and I had to add it. It really is a failure in it’s own right because this was a ridiculously toxic relationship. Bella and Edward are also idiots, so there’s that.

Barney & Robyn – How I Met Your Mother

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This relationship is the same as Joey and Rachel. It should never ever have happened. To be honest though, by the end of this show I didn’t give a fuck who anyone ended up with. I don’t think the Producers did either.

Luke & Leia – Star Wars

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I always laugh the first time Leia kisses Luke and he gets a smug look on his face. SO GROSS ahahahahaha. Needless to say, I am very glad that this relationship fell through….


Lu Reads

the book corps

The Orangutan Librarian

And anyone else who wants to do it 🙂

As usual, no pressure to do this tag!!

Steff xx



Mental Illness: Never be ashamed to seek help

So I’m having one of those nights where I can’t sleep, so thought I would do a blog post because I’ve got things on my mind.

******TW: Suicide*******

Recently I found out that someone I know commit suicide. This guy was the loveliest, most vibrant person I have ever met. He would go out of his way to talk to everyone and make friends with everyone. When he walked into a room, the room would light up. Everyone loved him. We all knew he had his own struggles, and eventually he just kind of went of the radar. He was uncontactable and he just really kept to himself.

My last memory of him was that we were walking to the train one afternoon and we were talking about how stressful and busy life was, how we should start a mindfulness/meditation lunch time group. I told him I thought that would be awesome , so we’d speak the next week about organising something. I ended up emailing him the following week and I never heard anything back from him, I guess I just thought he wasn’t interested anymore so I didn’t pursue it. But then I recently realised this is the time he went off the radar.

I’ve felt so much guilt for not following up with him. What if I’d tried a bit harder to get in contact with him? Would it have made a difference? So many what ifs that can never be answered, and I think I will always feel sad about that.

I have always struggled with mental illness, it’s been an ongoing battle for me. So knowing that someone was going through the same thing as me and I couldn’t help them…it really upsets me. Like, shouldn’t I have some sort of radar that tells me when others are struggling?

Suicide is terribly common in men and the LGBTQIAP community. Society has forced people into molds, which are restrictive and claustrophobic. People feel they aren’t accepted. They feel like they are on there own, that the way they feel isn’t valid. Too many people feel like their experience isn’t as bad as someone elses and therefore shouldn’t feel the way they feel. This is bullshit, because mental illness is NOT a competition. Your feelings are valid.

Please, please, please, don’t ever be ashamed to ask for help. Go to a friend or family member, GP, Psychologist, Psychiatrist. Go on medication if that’s what you need to survive. I can say that even with my highs and lows, medication has helped me so much. I’ve had people tell me I shouldn’t be on them, but who are they to say that? You need to do what you need to do to live your life. To love everything that comes with life including the bad days. Don’t allow people to make you feel small or weak for needing help. Some of the biggest battles we face are within our own mind, and if that doesn’t make us strong then what does?

I have said this before and will continue to say it. If you ever need someone to talk to, I am always here. DM me on instagram or twitter or send me an email. I’m not good at giving advice but I will listen and I will never judge. You are all beautiful people and you all deserve to be comfortable and to not feel scared. There are so many of us out here fighting along side you, you are not alone.

I didn’t mean for this post to be sad. I think I’ve had this bottling up for a few weeks now so even if no one reads this I am at least happy to get it off my chest.

If you have stuck with me, thank you! Remember you are awesome and you are loved. You don’t have to go through this alone.


Steff xx

Rant: J.K. Rowling

I’m going to be honest, as usual I don’t really know how to word this. Thoughts in my head don’t always make sense so I apologise in advance if you read some of this and think “what the hell is this chick on…”.

Ok, so Harry Potter, for me, has always been such a magical world. From the first page of book 1, I was absolutely hooked. I loved the characters, the world and thought JK Rowling’s writing was ok. Harry annoyed me sometimes, but I still loved him in an exasperated sort of way. It has always had it’s flaws, such as it’s absolute lack in diversity, I always found it hard to believe that there would only be 3 (correct me if I’m wrong) people of colour in the whole series. No kids with disabilities, no LGBTQIA+ kids or adults. The list  goes on.

Despite these issues, we continued to love this series, all the while knowing and speaking out that it should have been more diverse. We have stood by this series because of our love for the world and the magic.

Look, I understand Authors are human and make mistakes. And what I love to see is Authors try and rectify these mistakes, by learning from them and improving. I have seen it happen with other Authors. There is nothing wrong with admitting you are wrong, or have done something wrong and then act on it.

Which brings me to JKR.

I am so absolutely disappointed with JKR and everything she has said and done over the years. At first, her little “facts” about Dumbledore being gay and someone being Jewish were like…”oh, ok that’s weird because I never saw that in the book”. But then we all moved along, despite being disappointed that this was never even alluded to in the books.

JKR has over the years, made out that she is a champion for diversity, because she stated after the fact that certain characters weren’t just white and straight. We often see her fighting with Trump or Piers Morgan, because you know, she stands up for minorities. However, she is the ultimate example of someone not practising what they preach. Time and time again, JKR has proven that she isn’t as progressive as what she would have you believe.

This has been brought to light, once again, with the next instalment of Fantastic Beasts. Don’t even get me started on Johnny Depp. Reading JKR’s excuse as to why they decided to keep Depp absolutely made my blood boil. It was kind of like a “fuck you” to fans of the series and everyone who has ever been abused by a partner.

No, once again, she has erased Dumbledore’s sexuality. Why? Honestly, by now who the fuck knows. Here’s the thing. DON’T SAY SOMEONE IS GAY IF YOU AREN’T GOING TO DEPICT IT WHATSOEVER IN THE MOVIE OR BOOKS. Seriously! To me, if it’s not on paper, it didn’t happen. Why get the hopes up of MILLIONS of fans, only to completely ignore something extremely important to those millions of fans. Dumbledore’s sexuality is important. His relationship with Grindelwald is important.

There comes a time when a series is no longer just the Authors. It also belongs to the fans, who helped the Author become successful and a billionaire. JKR has a MASSIVE say in what happens in these movies. She is in a position of power, a position where she can make positive changes. The fans have spoken and have expressed their dissent. They have ultimately been ignored, not just in regards to Dumbledore’s sexuality, but literally a thousand other things as well.

I will not be watching any future instalments in the Harry Potter-verse until changes are made. I will not continue to support an Author who doesn’t care about her fans. I will not continue to support an Author who says things but doesn’t follow through with them. I am pretty much done with JKR, and honestly wish that she had tottered off to her mansion following the last HP movie and had stayed silent. JKR ultimately got herself into this mess, she now needs to work on getting out of it before she loses more fans.