Romance Fails in Fiction Tag

Hello friends!

I hope you are all having a super awesome week! I was tagged by the lovely Sophie @ Blame Chocolate for this fun tag. To be honest, I am not exactly sure what constitutes a “fail”, so I have gone with some super cringey relationships that made me want to vomit.

THE RULES

  • Please PINGBACK to Kate @ Melting Pots and Other Calamities.
  • You can choose ten romance fails from ANY media you like: books, movies, anime, manga, T.V shows, or Webtoons. You can even mix them up if you want.
  • You can choose funny fails or serious ones; for the serious ones, phrase it humorously. Remember, this is a fun tag! It’s not meant to be serious.
  • Mention who’s who in the fails. (I.E, who fails and who is the recipient of the failure). If there isn’t  recipient, per se, just state the couple (or non-couple).
  • Optional: Rank the failures from least extreme to most extreme.
  • 5 failures at LEAST.
  • Tag as many people as you want, but at least one person.

CRINGEY RELATIONSHIP FAILS

Joey & Rachel – Friends

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Why did anyone think this was a good idea?! This whole thing was YUCK and it is one part of Friends that I like to pretend never happened. Ugggghhhhh.

Clary & Sebastian – The Mortal Instruments

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I won’t give too much away with this one. But anyone who read the books will completely understand why this one is cringey, and why we were all sooooo glad it was a massive fail!

Edward & Bella – Twilight

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I guess their relationship didn’t fail, but it’s just super cringe and I had to add it. It really is a failure in it’s own right because this was a ridiculously toxic relationship. Bella and Edward are also idiots, so there’s that.

Barney & Robyn – How I Met Your Mother

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This relationship is the same as Joey and Rachel. It should never ever have happened. To be honest though, by the end of this show I didn’t give a fuck who anyone ended up with. I don’t think the Producers did either.

Luke & Leia – Star Wars

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I always laugh the first time Leia kisses Luke and he gets a smug look on his face. SO GROSS ahahahahaha. Needless to say, I am very glad that this relationship fell through….

I TAG

Lu Reads

the book corps

The Orangutan Librarian

And anyone else who wants to do it 🙂

As usual, no pressure to do this tag!!

Steff xx

 

 

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Mental Illness: Never be ashamed to seek help

So I’m having one of those nights where I can’t sleep, so thought I would do a blog post because I’ve got things on my mind.

******TW: Suicide*******

Recently I found out that someone I know commit suicide. This guy was the loveliest, most vibrant person I have ever met. He would go out of his way to talk to everyone and make friends with everyone. When he walked into a room, the room would light up. Everyone loved him. We all knew he had his own struggles, and eventually he just kind of went of the radar. He was uncontactable and he just really kept to himself.

My last memory of him was that we were walking to the train one afternoon and we were talking about how stressful and busy life was, how we should start a mindfulness/meditation lunch time group. I told him I thought that would be awesome , so we’d speak the next week about organising something. I ended up emailing him the following week and I never heard anything back from him, I guess I just thought he wasn’t interested anymore so I didn’t pursue it. But then I recently realised this is the time he went off the radar.

I’ve felt so much guilt for not following up with him. What if I’d tried a bit harder to get in contact with him? Would it have made a difference? So many what ifs that can never be answered, and I think I will always feel sad about that.

I have always struggled with mental illness, it’s been an ongoing battle for me. So knowing that someone was going through the same thing as me and I couldn’t help them…it really upsets me. Like, shouldn’t I have some sort of radar that tells me when others are struggling?

Suicide is terribly common in men and the LGBTQIAP community. Society has forced people into molds, which are restrictive and claustrophobic. People feel they aren’t accepted. They feel like they are on there own, that the way they feel isn’t valid. Too many people feel like their experience isn’t as bad as someone elses and therefore shouldn’t feel the way they feel. This is bullshit, because mental illness is NOT a competition. Your feelings are valid.

Please, please, please, don’t ever be ashamed to ask for help. Go to a friend or family member, GP, Psychologist, Psychiatrist. Go on medication if that’s what you need to survive. I can say that even with my highs and lows, medication has helped me so much. I’ve had people tell me I shouldn’t be on them, but who are they to say that? You need to do what you need to do to live your life. To love everything that comes with life including the bad days. Don’t allow people to make you feel small or weak for needing help. Some of the biggest battles we face are within our own mind, and if that doesn’t make us strong then what does?

I have said this before and will continue to say it. If you ever need someone to talk to, I am always here. DM me on instagram or twitter or send me an email. I’m not good at giving advice but I will listen and I will never judge. You are all beautiful people and you all deserve to be comfortable and to not feel scared. There are so many of us out here fighting along side you, you are not alone.

I didn’t mean for this post to be sad. I think I’ve had this bottling up for a few weeks now so even if no one reads this I am at least happy to get it off my chest.

If you have stuck with me, thank you! Remember you are awesome and you are loved. You don’t have to go through this alone.

Love

Steff xx

Rant: J.K. Rowling

I’m going to be honest, as usual I don’t really know how to word this. Thoughts in my head don’t always make sense so I apologise in advance if you read some of this and think “what the hell is this chick on…”.

Ok, so Harry Potter, for me, has always been such a magical world. From the first page of book 1, I was absolutely hooked. I loved the characters, the world and thought JK Rowling’s writing was ok. Harry annoyed me sometimes, but I still loved him in an exasperated sort of way. It has always had it’s flaws, such as it’s absolute lack in diversity, I always found it hard to believe that there would only be 3 (correct me if I’m wrong) people of colour in the whole series. No kids with disabilities, no LGBTQIA+ kids or adults. The list  goes on.

Despite these issues, we continued to love this series, all the while knowing and speaking out that it should have been more diverse. We have stood by this series because of our love for the world and the magic.

Look, I understand Authors are human and make mistakes. And what I love to see is Authors try and rectify these mistakes, by learning from them and improving. I have seen it happen with other Authors. There is nothing wrong with admitting you are wrong, or have done something wrong and then act on it.

Which brings me to JKR.

I am so absolutely disappointed with JKR and everything she has said and done over the years. At first, her little “facts” about Dumbledore being gay and someone being Jewish were like…”oh, ok that’s weird because I never saw that in the book”. But then we all moved along, despite being disappointed that this was never even alluded to in the books.

JKR has over the years, made out that she is a champion for diversity, because she stated after the fact that certain characters weren’t just white and straight. We often see her fighting with Trump or Piers Morgan, because you know, she stands up for minorities. However, she is the ultimate example of someone not practising what they preach. Time and time again, JKR has proven that she isn’t as progressive as what she would have you believe.

This has been brought to light, once again, with the next instalment of Fantastic Beasts. Don’t even get me started on Johnny Depp. Reading JKR’s excuse as to why they decided to keep Depp absolutely made my blood boil. It was kind of like a “fuck you” to fans of the series and everyone who has ever been abused by a partner.

No, once again, she has erased Dumbledore’s sexuality. Why? Honestly, by now who the fuck knows. Here’s the thing. DON’T SAY SOMEONE IS GAY IF YOU AREN’T GOING TO DEPICT IT WHATSOEVER IN THE MOVIE OR BOOKS. Seriously! To me, if it’s not on paper, it didn’t happen. Why get the hopes up of MILLIONS of fans, only to completely ignore something extremely important to those millions of fans. Dumbledore’s sexuality is important. His relationship with Grindelwald is important.

There comes a time when a series is no longer just the Authors. It also belongs to the fans, who helped the Author become successful and a billionaire. JKR has a MASSIVE say in what happens in these movies. She is in a position of power, a position where she can make positive changes. The fans have spoken and have expressed their dissent. They have ultimately been ignored, not just in regards to Dumbledore’s sexuality, but literally a thousand other things as well.

I will not be watching any future instalments in the Harry Potter-verse until changes are made. I will not continue to support an Author who doesn’t care about her fans. I will not continue to support an Author who says things but doesn’t follow through with them. I am pretty much done with JKR, and honestly wish that she had tottered off to her mansion following the last HP movie and had stayed silent. JKR ultimately got herself into this mess, she now needs to work on getting out of it before she loses more fans.

Steff

I strongly dislike the tv show Shadowhunters. Here. Is. Why.

This may be a mess so I apologise in advance.

I am currently re-reading City of Bones for the thousandth time, because it is one of my all time favourite books/series. I will read anything by Cassandra Clare, the world she has created is magical and fun and angsty…it’s just everything I love about YA and fantasy.

I actually don’t mind the movie that came out a few years back. It wasn’t great, but to me it wasn’t terrible. I feel like they stuck a lot closer to the book series than Shadowhunters did…unfortunately it just couldn’t get enough steam in it to keep going. This now brings me to Shadowhunters.

Sigh…

I had high hopes for Shadowhunters, I really did. I was so excited when I saw the trailer, I thought it seemed like it could be really good. Unfortunately for me, it wasn’t. Now this is obviously my opinion – a lot of people love this series and I have no issues with that whatsoever.

Clary

I’m sooooooo not a fan of Katherine McNamara as Clary. I know alot of people think she is perfect, but to me….she just isn’t the Clary that I had hoped to see on screen. Clary should be nerdy and awkward but also feisty. Katherine McNamara kind of acts like Buffy (no issues with Buffy, I fucking love her) and she’s just a bit too “perfect”. I actually really loved Lilly Collins as Clary, I thought she embodied the character so much better.

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Jace

Also not a fan of Dominic Sherwood. With him…I don’t know, he just seems a bit to serious maybe?? The Jace in the books is obviously full of self-loathing and he is in pain, but he is also witty and sarcastic. I just don’t feel like I get that from Dominic Sherwood….I just…he just makes me feel a bit “meh”.

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The Institute

I hate, hate, hate how they have turned the institute into some sort of demon hunter police precinct. I mean, yeah I get it, that’s what Shadowhunters are. But I really loved the feel of the books where it felt like the Shadowhunters are a world apart from humans and don’t engage in technology or anything like that. I loved how the institute felt like an old church and it felt like the only people who lived there were the Lightwoods (including Jace).

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The investigations

There is a reason why I don’t like police shows. I don’t like watching investigations or anything to do with crime, it really just doesn’t interest me. So I wasn’t really into the whole “police investigation” side of Shadowhunters. I really, really didn’t like it. It actually bored me. I know they wanted to give Luke a purpose…but I don’t like that he is now a cop and is investigating shit. Why couldn’t he just work at the bookstore and then the Chinese take-away shop? Why?!?

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The plot

I really just didn’t like how different it is from the books. Like, I know it is similar but I really hate that they had to change things so much. Outlander managed to keep everything the same and you know what, it’s an absolutely AMAZING show. Arrgghhh….I’m just so FRUSTRATED.

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A few things that I love about the show because I don’t just want to be a negative nancy

Alec and Magnus – Malec

They are fucking beautiful as individuals, and they are fucking beautiful together. Like, holy shit. AREN’T THEY JUST THE MOST GORGEOUS LITTLE CHERUBS!!!!!

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Ok I actually couldn’t think of anything else that I like about this show. I LOVE Malec, and they are literally the only reason I would keep watching. Unfortunately, their love for each other is not enough for me to continue.

Now, I know, I know, the show is never going to be the same as the book. WHATEVER. But I JUST DON’T UNDERSTAND WHY THEY CAN’T STICK TO THE ORIGINAL STORY LINE. And, look, I know that they didn’t make this show FOR ME. But, I am just so sick of being disappointed by tv shows/movies of books that I fucking love.

I can’t even begin to explain how pissed I will be if Queen of Shadows is shit. Don’t even get me started on that….

So yeah. Points to take away from this post:

  • I love the books
  • I like the movie
  • I hate the tv show
  • I understand that the tv show is going to be different from the books
  • It doesn’t mean I have to like it
  • Because I don’t.

What do you think about Shadowhunters? Do you like/love/hate it? Do you think I am absolutely wrong and should be turned into a Forsaken** for writing this post?

**won’t be turned into Forsaken because I have angel blood in me. Runes will work on me, so don’t even try it.

Let me know your thoughts below.

Steff xx